In our family, we talk a lot about fairness. We talk about luck. We talk about putting kindness out into the world. We talk about social justice.
But we're not talking about the Supreme Court decision.
Both of my school-aged daughters had gay teachers this year: one in a longtime partnership, and one who leveled up from "girlfriend" to "fiancee" just this spring. My girls have friends with gay parents. We have gay friends and gay family.
I don't want to plant a seed in my girls' brains that ANY of their relationships are lesser than mine. I want them to continue to believe in fairness. Telling them that the Supreme Court had to mandate recognition of gay marriage will make the little wheels of their brains spin wildly. They already know that their is hatred and meanness in the world, but I don't want them to know that some of that hatred and meanness is showered on people they love.
In my girls' world, every couple can get married, because that is fair. Anything less is simply ridiculous.
So yes, we talk about homelessness. We talk about school funding. We talk about famine and disease and death and sex.
But for now, in my house, there will be no discussion about prejudice against same-sex marriages.
It is so ordered.
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